A Beginners Guide to Bondage

Bondage doesn’t need to be one of these taboo topics in your bedroom. You’d be surprised how many people are into it. So if its something that has mulled about the back of your mind maybe you should try bringing it up to your partner. That doesn’t mean you need to go full throttle in to the back pages of 50 Shades of Grey (thats more sadomasochism anyway truth be told) you can easily start of light and work your way up. If you are brand new to bondage but would like to learn more then keep reading. This is our beginners guide to bondage.

What is Bondage?

To put it simply bondage is restricting someones movement. I’m sure you have at some point tried a little :tie up and tease” before bondage is just ramping it up a little. The most important aspect of bondage is trust. You have to trust you partner to let yourself become vulnerable or in all honestly you wont end up enjoying yourself. Bondage is about mutual pleasure. it is not an excuse for the person who is on “top” to fulfill their own fantasies at the expense of the passive partner.

Why Do People Like Bondage?

There are loads of reason people take to bondage. Believe it or not it helps people to relax. The idea of receiving pleasure without the pressure of having to give it back is quiet and excitable prospect. Some people like to take it a bit further and “play struggle” in their restraints. This can be exciting and build up a bit of an adrenaline rush. Get a blindfold.  This heightens other sensations and is the ultimate way to tease. This is all for the “passive partner” in the scenario so for the person that is dishing out the pleasure they get a heightened sense of empowerment, that is why trust is so important and this position should never be abused.

First Time Tips

If its your first time here are some handy little tips to get the ball rolling. Nothing to heavy just little things you can do to see if bondage is for you:

  • Try it out with a silk scarf. Why not start slowly sad take turns tying each other up with a silk scarf.
  • Tie your passive partner up in something they can break out of if they so wish. Paper chains or even streamers. That way your partner can change position if they feel they want to.
  • Skip tying each other up completely and just try out a blind fold.

If after all this you want to take it a step further then Lovehoney have a great beginners set for bondage. You can even use one of these handy Lovehoney Voucher Codes to save yourself some money.

Be Safe

Bondage is something you should try with a partner you love and trust. If you don’t feel safe then you shouldn’t do it. You shouldn’t try this out with someone you have just met. Until you know them better keep your self safe and spend sometime getting to know this person. Take our advice:

  • Never let someone bully you into taking part in bondage. It is fin to say know and someone you love and trust would never make you do something you are not comfortable with.
  • Talk about  it before you do it. Talk about how far you are willing to go and waht types of things you are comfortable with. This will make the whole experience enjoyable for all patties.
  • Decide on a safe word beforehand. If at anytime you feel uncomfortable use this word.
  • Never tie someones neck. There are collars and other safe ways to do this. Using ropes, chains  of scarves to tie someones neck is a big mistake.
  • Never leave the “passive partner” alone. They are tied up an it is not safe to do so.
  • Have safe sex and never attempt any bondage under the influence of alcohol or drugs.
  • If you have never tried bondage before then do go for the hardcore stuff straight away. Start light and work your way up.

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